Relationships are extremely important aspects of our lives, and human contact is essential to maintaining happiness and comfort. Sometimes, however, we lose track of the various relationships in our lives, due to commitments at work or other circumstances. It is important to accurately track our relationships, and recognize quickly if they may be going off the rails. This includes relationships with our spouses, parents, children, and friends. Maintaining healthy relationships goes a long way in ensuring a happy life.
The most important thing you can do when it comes to tracking your relationships is to check in. This is sometimes easier said than done. When we have work commitments or young children, it can be difficult to find enough time in a day to talk to everyone. Still, in today’s age, it is easier than ever to contact someone. A simple text can go a long way in maintaining a relationship. With your spouse, it is important to make time for just the two of you. Even if you are exhausted, set aside an hour each night to just sit and talk. This can be done when the kids go to sleep or if they are watching a movie, or something along those lines. When it comes to friends, a simple text or email can go a long way. You can also try arranging a time to hang out once every few weeks. With your parents, try calling them once a week, or schedule a visit. This is especially important if you have young kids, because they will be grandparents. Your parents can be useful when it comes to helping take care of the kids. They can also, possibly, take them off your hands for a weekend, allowing you and your partner to spend some quality time together. These simple steps will help you keep track of your relationships, and recognize if there are any concerns or problems much more quickly.
While checking in and tracking your relationships is important, it can all be for naught if you can’t accurately recognize problems and address any concerns. It is extremely important to talk openly. With your spouse, don’t just talk about maintaining the household or parenting. There’s a reason the two of you are together – you have a lot in common and are attracted to each other. This doesn’t mean you should avoid talking about difficult subjects, however. It is unhealthy to keep problems to yourself. It is possible to have civil conversations about difficult topics, which will actually help your relationship in the long run. It also important to not let the conversation spiral out of control. If you are talking about how your partner needs to spend less time at work and more time at home, it is not appropriate to mention any problems you may have with their family, or other issues. Also, never personally attack your partner. Let them know how you feel, but also listen to how they feel. This extends past your relationship with your significant other, however. If you are having issues with your parents or friends, you need to follow the same process. It is also important to other people’s concerns that they may have about you. If you have missed the last few group hangouts, and your friends are getting frustrated, it is important to understand that, and try to come up with a solution, or a way for all of you to hang out together.