Are you stuck in an unhealthy relationship? Maybe you are fighting a lot, or you feel like your partner isn’t as interested in you as they were before (or vice versa). Luckily, you don’t need to end your relationship. Instead, apply for help! There are many different venues available for you to get relationship help, but there are also things you can do on your own to help get your relationship running smoothly again.

It’s Normal

The first thing you need to do is remove the stigma of relationship help. Couples in healthy relationships get help all the time in order to ensure their relationship stays healthy. Work and family commitments can make it hard for a couple to get quality personal time together. Going to counselling can be, perhaps surprisingly to some, a great way for a couple to spend quality time together. It also gives each person a chance to talk about their relationship, including areas that are going strong and some areas that may need a little improvement. It allows them to air any issues or problems in a therapeutic and calm environment, which is huge when trying to come up with solutions for these problems.

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Reach Out

If you are unhappy in your relationship or notice a few different problems, it is important to reach out and get help. Unfortunately, your partner may not be as willing as you. The last thing you want to do is blindside your partner by scheduling a therapy session without their knowledge or permission. Thus, you need to know how to approach your partner the right way. Pick a time when they are not tired, stressed, or distracted, and approach in a non-confrontational manner. Coming off too strong with a condescending or angry tone can lead to an argument and make it far less likely that your spouse will be willing to try therapy. It is also important to recognize the role you play in the relationship. Use words like “we” and “us” instead of “you”. A non-threatening approach not only takes some pressure off your partner, it also makes them feel like they aren’t being blamed. Hopefully, they will be able to recognize some of the concerns you have, and will be willing to try to get help.

Stay United

At the end of the day, it is extremely important that you and your partner stay united. It is difficult to accomplish anything if you and your partner are pulling in opposite directions. It is much more likely that you will fix your relationship if the two of you agree to go get help together, and it isn’t being strongly pushed on the other person. The most important thing you can do to ensure you stay united is to communicate effectively. Communication is a key part of any relationship. In order to have successful communication, you need to be honest and direct, but also aware of your partner’s desires, fears, and needs. This can help strengthen bonds and trust, and will make it much easier to decide to get help.